a: “the measured or measurable period during which an action, process, or condition exists or continues : DURATION

b: a nonspatial continuum that is measured in terms of events which succeed one another from past through present to future”

-       Merriam Dictionary

As someone who’s always lived in big cities, time is one of the top things on my mind. I often find myself doing my best to be aware of where, who and what I spend my time on. Just like what Oprah says on her Super Soul Sunday Podcast: “The best gift you can give yourself is time.” As I get older, I couldn’t agree more on her statement.


Unfortunately, most of us do not realize the fact that none of us have the privilege of having “enough” time. It’s usually not until a death of a loved one occurs and/or other events that shift our focus on having the awareness of how valuable time is; although it’s an illusion, its concept still play an important role in all our lives.


 Usually when our time is not being spent wisely, we face plenty of regrets. If you’re familiar with the feeling, you know how toxic it can get.

 Whenever I feel regret, I sit with it and process what I think could have been different. I make it a priority to give time and space for whatever feelings arise; therefore, acceptance and peace can ensue. It makes moving forward so much easier.


Notice how CHOOSING to MAKE TIME makes the pivot?


I know I always advocate for being present, but it honestly is a great place to start to be more aware on the things and people you dedicate your time on.

 Also, taking a moment to ask ourselves on how important something/someone is before making the choice and/or commitment to spend time with them can make a big difference as well.

 Don’t underestimate the power of taking small steps, one at a time. You ALWAYS already know how someone/ something will make you feel, so make it a hobby to check in with yourself J.

 In closing, below will be a few questions to meditate on to help you choose wisely and be aware of what and who you spend your time on:


1.     Is this a priority right now?

2.     How would rescheduling affect this event?

3.     How do I feel whenever I am around him/her/them?

4.     Do I really want to be around them? Be fucking honest! DO NOT JUSTIFY YOUR FEELINGS!


Sending you all much love as always,



*Photo credits:

P.S. I wrote a blog on Rob’s website recently along with his dope photography!

Check out his Instagram to access the link on his site for the blogpost about ‘Success’

Robert Bell ; @mayor__lo

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